Cutting the Cancer Out of Your Life

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Many people wonder what confidence is, and more importantly, how to get it. Literally everyone and their mother is deeply invested in obtaining confidence, either through material and superficial needs, or through self discovery and life experiences. And while many will argue the semantics of the best way to get confidence in life, there is no denying that an absolutely ridiculous amount of time is spent by people trying to get some level of belief in themselves so they can go through life with a bit less stress.

There are literally millions of arguments and debates scattered all over the internet about how you can get confident. You can “Pay off your debt and feel more confident”, “Travel the world and let new life experiences mold you into a tougher person”, “Get an education so you don’t feel like a dumbass compared to everyone else and hence be more confident”, and you can even “Take a pill to make your penis bigger and feel more confident”. Even flipping through the various self help and motivational blogs around the internet will lead you to a jumbled array of bullshit that will leave you questioning your sexuality before it will offer any true insight on how to build confidence.

I don’t want to argue about what confidence is, or the best way to get it (we could sit here and talk about that for hours), instead I want to discuss one way that helped me build confidence that no one seems to really want to talk about because of the overall high sensitivity levels of everyone on the internet.

Warning: This is no frills, no bullshit, tried and true advice that you may find unsettling and fairly unusable. If you feel this way after reading this then you need to use it more than anyone else.

So we can agree there are lots of ways to build confidence in your life, from going on and experiencing things firsthand, reading affirmations, failing, succeeding, all sorts of ways that will better root who you are in this cluster fuck of a world we live in. Most of these actions involve a building of one’s self, but what about a breakdown?

No this isn’t some moment where I start talking about Tyler Durden and how much of a god that movie was (like every other front running douche bag on the internet it seems, though don’t get me wrong, that movie and its message are awesome, just terribly played out)

What about cutting out the fat in your life? Or the cancers that slows you down rather than speed you up?

At some point in your life I am sure you have run into a situation where something or someone was holding you back in your life. Maybe one of your friends, a past event that prevents you from taking the next step, maybe even a personal attachment to an old teddy bear that you still have ;). That thing held you back in some area in your life, it prevented you from doing something you wanted or needed to do. Maybe you had a friend that would tell you to stay home and watch football instead of go to the gym, or a past failure in a career pathway that lingers over your head every time you think about quitting your shitty job, it can be anything.

These events or people are a cancer in your life. It is something that grows and feeds off the pain and limitations in your life, not to mention it can grow if left unchecked. It is crucial that these cancers in your life be recognized, dealt with, and destroyed. I cannot emphasize enough the importance of cutting this crap out of your life.  You need to cut that shit out and dump all attachments to it, you wouldn’t treat cancer kindly and easily work your way through it would you? No, you would get of that cancer faster than a movie starring Lindsey Lohan. This may seem a bit extreme, and even a little intense, but sometimes that is exactly what is needed in order to deal with something critical in your life.

I remember five years ago when I decided to overcome my fears of talking to strangers and made a commitment to going up to new people on a regular basis and chatting them up (especially the ladies). Out of my small circle of friends, only one of them truly supported my cause and even went out with me on many nights to strike conversations with people at nightclubs. My other friends ridiculed me and said I was wasting my time and should stay in our home town and do the same shit every night that they were doing because they were having more fun than I was, or some other bullshit nonsense. I ignored everything they said and after a few months of the repeated behavior from my friends, I recognized that they were not true friends and rather a waste of my time. Anyone who was going to tell me not to do something and ridicule me for making a positive change in my life was clearly a cancer in my life, so I cut all contact from them and made a whole new circle of friends that were supportive and awesome.

Life is too short to have things weighing you down, so I recommend you cut all the loose weight you have in your life and make a real push towards the things that really make your blood flow.

Cut the Cancer and cheers for a bullshit less existence that is loaded with kickassness

Gabriel